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Realization. Even though it may seem impossible, the truth is, nothing is impossible. If あなた keep thinking it's impossible, then it will be. Have faith
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Analyze the situation. Create a 一覧 of "pros" and "cons" to help あなた better understand why you're seeking 愛 または acceptance from this person.
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Don't worry about things あなた can't help. Acknowledge the impossibility as something that is totally out of your hands (ex: marriage, age, sexuality, hang-ups) and know that if something is meant to be, it will be.
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Don't take it personally. Perceiving the situation as a personal attack, is not advised. There is no point によって contemplating why. In fact, it may create a mysterious attraction to them therefore prolonging infatuation, not to mention causing あなた a world of pain.
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Plan wisely. Set aside a time for any duration. によって reflecting, not brooding, あなた gain insight for your 次 possible crush.
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Admit あなた have a crush. Allow yourself to feel it. If あなた don't, あなた are at risk for "Romeo and Juliet Syndrome". The forbidden 愛 possibility becomes もっと見る attractive.
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Don't dwell. Instead, go out and make new friends, または hang out with the old, But never be mean about them! It will only get back to them and then あなた will have ロスト a friend.
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移動する on. Remember that it's not the end of the world. Someone else may share your feelings, but this specific person just wasn't the right one. Just remember that its a crush-no matter how strong.
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Mesmerizing. When あなた start remembering good times あなた had with your crush, immediately find something else to focus your energy and time on. Don't allow yourself to wallow in self pity for too long.
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Be honest. Tell them how あなた feel. If あなた find out that he または she doesn't have any feelings for you, it will be easier for あなた to get over it.
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Avoid anger. They didn't do anything wrong and getting angry is just going to push them further away and destroy your friendship. Come to terms with the fact that it isn't their fault they aren't attracted to あなた that way. This is hard, but a few tears (or a few buckets of tears), a few chick-flicks and treats and a few peppy songs あなた can dance to will keep あなた on your feet.
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Keep in mind, if あなた are madly and hopelessly in love/lust, be patient. Don't be too clingy, but continue on as normal, being your wonderful self and 表示する him/her how awesome あなた are. He/She might just realize one 日 that they have been blind this whole time and confess their love; after all, 愛 is just friendship on fire.
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Understand that if all else fails, think about how devastated あなた would be if the two of あなた started dating/getting serious and then broke up. Think of that when あなた get that feeling. Keep in mind how important your friendship is.
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It's not healthy to keep hoping they will one 日 feel the same. Try to emancipate yourself from them for a while so that あなた can rid yourself of your feelings for them, because if あなた don't, the time あなた spend around them will be tense and bittersweet.
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Avoid thinking about them. You'll only feel worse if あなた do. Meet new people, talk to your friends.
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Instead of fantasizing about how great things could be with your crush, pick someone else. Imagine how great things would be with them. You've probably been doing this with your crush for so long that imagining being in a relationship with someone new might be the breath of fresh air あなた need to get the ball rolling on getting over him/her.
Act
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Maintain some type of distance. While being close to someone may stir emotions, avoiding someone who is regularly seen definitely will. If the person is close, either request "space" または continue normal activities. If the person is not, keep a distance, but not a "duck-and-cover" type of avoidance.
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Spend time with the person. あなた will see their negative qualities, which will be beyond what あなた can くま, クマ if you're not meant to be.
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Look at them closely. Find the physical flaws. And then think... "He/She's not that hot! What am I thinking?!" And find someone that あなた can get, and still be フレンズ with your crush.
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Stop fantasizing about them! They aren't important. They don't define who あなた are, that's your job.
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Remember that this person is not the end of the world. Someone else may feel the way あなた do about YOU. Just remember that its a crush--no matter how strong.
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Focus on the trait of theirs that is your least favorite. That means, if he is so perverted and あなた don't like it, または if she is self-centered and あなた can't stand it, focus. It will allow あなた to see him/her as what he/she is, as well as get あなた over him/her.
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When あなた start remembering a good time あなた had with your crush, convince yourself it wasn't all that great によって remembering a much better time あなた experienced with someone else.
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Ask yourself a reason why あなた want to get over it. Are あなた married/in another relationship? If so, it's easier to prioritize if あなた think it through.
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Try to minimize contact with your crush.
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Focus on your other interests.
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Go to the gym and work out. Get your mind off of it and feel better about yourself.
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Find comic relief. See the humorous side to things, read comic 本 または deep thoughts before あなた go to bed.
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Make an exciting change to make yourself feel sexy. Treat your self to a hair-cut, または a new outfit. Make yourself feel confident.
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クロス out または erase his/her name anywhere あなた might have written it (e.g your notebook, your textbook, the ウォール of your bedroom, etc.)
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Avoid all eye contact with them and try not to look longingly at his/her nose. You'll be もっと見る likely to get over the crush if あなた aren't always staring at him/her.
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Act a bit もっと見る unpleasant around them than your usual temperament. They may act unpleasant back and won't seem as attractive to you, but be warned, あなた may lose out on a relationship with another person if あなた are too mean.
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あなた know あなた will see this person again. They are your best friend and あなた don't want to lose them. Try to your time with them and start spending time with other people (namely ones of the sex あなた are attracted to). Start dating and don't feel obligated to your best friend, they're not dating you.
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Learn from the experience and come out stronger.
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Accept! Always remember that the toughest part will be to observe your best friend be normal around あなた while あなた could struggle to do so. There is no way around it but to accept that everything cannot possibly be reciprocated.
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Try falling out of love/lust. Make lists of all the things that go against being attracted to him/her - 愛 is blind, try to voluntarily open your eyes.
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Don't let them see how upset あなた are. If they know, it'll only make them feel bad and they might start avoiding you. Act like nothing happened and maybe mention another person あなた think is hot. If they start liking あなた back, then that's great. Hope it all works out. If they don't, then just keep this up until あなた find someone else.
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Consider the possibility of letting them see あなた with someone else. Act nicely. Sometimes people don't realize what they could have had until the opportunity is gone. If they don't start liking あなた back at this point, it's really time to stop crushing on them and meet new people.
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Remember that if they liked あなた but changed their minds at the last minute, あなた shouldn't get angry または blame things on them. Your friendship should be strong enough to not let something like that keep a good thing down.
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Accept it. Whether your window of opportunity came and went, または they're just not into you, acknowledge the reality of the situation. Tell yourself the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
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移動する on. Make a promise to yourself to get over it. If you're 読書 this article, you're ready to take this step, so just do it.
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Reassure yourself. Look in the mirror every morning, smile, and tell yourself, "You're worth it." Really mean it. あなた didn't do anything wrong, and right now there's someone else out there for you. And it always helps to remind yourself that they are the ones that are going to be missing out on you.
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Maintain your decision. If あなた find yourself slipping, remember the promise あなた made to yourself.
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Associate. If and when あなた catch yourself thinking about your crush, pick out something about them that あなた dislike, and focus on it. Be honest. あなた may have built a ファンタジー of them in your head, but in reality they're not as great.
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Distract yourself. Go out with your フレンズ and have fun. Meet new people. Find a 表示する または a game to immerse yourself in. Keep yourself busy and happy.
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Take care of yourself. Keep well-groomed and put on your best clothes. It will do wonders for your self-esteem. Remember step three.
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Find someone else. It can be difficult to get over someone if you're sitting there alone on Friday nights. Instead, call up that girl/guy あなた have History class with who always smiles at you.
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Live life. You're a great person and he/she was a fool not to see that. Before あなた know it you'll be back on track.
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Get it out. A good cry always helps. just let your feelings pour out and before あなた know it. He/She will be just a thing of the past.
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If あなた can not get over it try to do the stuff あなた 愛 like video games tv 読書 または whatever. Think about upcoming events that will make あなた happy. This may seem weird but it works 91 percent of the time
Tips
• Really focus on trying to find another boy/girl that you're interested in. It's hard to stop loving him/her when they're the only one あなた see. But don't neglect your best friend.
• If あなた are upset after finding out they don't like you, talk to someone あなた trust, like a friend または counselor, about how あなた feel. Tell them how you're hurt and ask for advice. Holding things in makes あなた depressed, and that can make everything much worse.
• Tell him/her as soon as possible that あなた have feelings for them. Waiting only makes it worse. It's not fair to あなた to have to keep it in, and あなた can't get over them until あなた know they don't feel the same way. It'll get worse before it gets better, but it will get better. And who knows? They may even confess to liking あなた back!
• Still be フレンズ with them. It's not fun to lose a friend because of a problem in a relationship and it's even harder with a best friend. Once あなた do get over them, you'll be glad あなた guys are still friends.
• Since they are your best friend あなた probably see them everyday at school so try to just kind of be yourself and act normal. It is hard but if he/she is your best friend then あなた were probably a little もっと見る comfortable around him/her to begin with so just act normal and don't try to impress him/her または make them like あなた back. It does not work!
• Try not to tell your フレンズ about it because they will only tell everyone else and it will get to him/her and make them feel very uncomfortable. It only makes it worse.
• Some songs might make あなた feel sad, but listening to others like, "Teardrops On My Guitar" によって Taylor 迅速, スウィフト might make あなた accept the concept that your crush might not like you.
• Do nott listen to 愛 songs または slow songs. It can cause あなた to become desperate.
• Make sure you're over them when you're not around them AND when あなた are. Sometimes you'll find that あなた have gotten over them during a time apart, but the 秒 they come up to you, あなた fall for them again.
• Don't tell them あなた 愛 them if あなた know for sure that they only want to be friends. This could damage the friendship.
• Don't overindulge on treats. あなた will feel even もっと見る depressed in the morning.
• Whatever あなた do, do not cut contact with the person. Because they aren't in 愛 with you, when あなた avoid them they will eventually just hang out with other people, causing a rift between あなた two. This can be hard to fix and can ruin any hopes of being close フレンズ again.
• Try to be thankful for the wonderful friendship あなた have, always wanting もっと見る could destroy your friendship.
• Don't try to change yourself to become what あなた think is attractive to the other person - they will only see あなた as fake and insecure, a person who is not fun to be with, even as friends!
• Don't attempt to make them jealous - if they really only see あなた as a friend, キス another guy/girl in front of them won't really affect them, and you'll just end up feeling regretful and disappointed with yourself later.
• If あなた do tell them, don't automatically assume how they're going to react. This sometimes makes あなた seem extremely foolish. If you're good enough friends, this might not affect your relationship as much as あなた think.
• Delete their phone number.
• Did あなた have a certain route in the hallway that あなた took to class where あなた ran into your crush? または maybe it was a hangout that あなた always saw him/her. Attempt to avoid these places because the もっと見る あなた don't see your crush the easier it will be to get over them!
• You have to remember that your crush for a boy/girl will just come and go. And if あなた kept thinking about him/her, just say this to yourself "There is not only one but many fishes in the water."
• If your crush doesn't like あなた for who あなた are, well, all I can say is that he/she will "REGRET" someday.
• Listen to inspiring songs like, "Forget You" によって Cee Lo Green.
Warnings
• Try not to get too depressed. It will be hard, but remember that life keeps going and it's better to go at the same speed.
• Don't stay alone for too long, you'll get bored and start thinking of the person.
• Don't keep thinking of the person. The もっと見る あなた think about them, the もっと見る likely あなた are to stay attached to them.
• Don't become bitter! Just because the person doesn't like あなた in that way doesn't mean あなた can be unfriendly towards them. Don't let your pride get wounded! Sometimes people just aren't right for one another! It says nothing about who あなた are.
• Don't let your self-esteem drop. あなた are still a wonderful person who deserves to be loved; this just wasn't the one who could 愛 あなた in that way. あなた will find many though who can. So keep faith in yourself!
• Don't break down または 表示する aggression if the person tells あなた he/she is in a relationship with someone.
• Don't demand the person about ending a relationship with a significant other.
• Don't jump into another serious relationship too soon. 日付 for fun, 日付 someone あなた normally wouldn't have been interested in, have some fun as a single person. Seeing that there are plenty of people out there who want to be with あなた will help あなた 移動する on and feel better about yourself.
• Don't do anything outright mean または embarrassing. The goal is to get over your crush, not make your neighbor's life a living nightmare, または to lose out on other potential relationships.
• Do not become rude または disrespectful around them. Treat them like a normal human being.
• If the two of あなた are フレンズ on MySpace または a similar site, consider taking them off your buddy 一覧 または at least removing your subscription to them. When あなた see a bulletin they've 投稿されました または a blog they wrote, just skip past it.
• Don't talk to them when you're under the influence of alcohol. あなた will say something あなた regret.
• Remember not to gossip または talk bad about them behind their back, because it will come back to haunt you.
