Nowadays, there are emo(emotional) people everywhere, and most of the "emo" people come from schools. So, this is like an emotional test for you. xD
I got this from Oprah btw. >.<
What's Your Emotional Style?Most people can identify with at least one of these emotional styles. Read each of the following groups of questions, and then begin to discover your own emotional style:
1.
Did あなた have a loss early in life that makes あなた fear losing people? Do あなた cling to people または push them away because you're afraid of losing them? In relationships, are あなた so obsessed with the fear you'll be left, that あなた push people away?
Your emotional style could be Abandonment.
Abandonment
The ongoing fear that people will leave is at the root of this emotional style. These people may fear that if they rock the ボート in the smallest way, the ones they 愛 will leave. Or, they may adapt によって running away from a relationship before they can be hurt.
If this emotional style applies to you, it's important to learn that あなた won't fall apart if someone leaves you. Be aware of the fear that any kind of abandonment stirs up — hypersensitivity to separation, dread of being isolated. Mindfulness can help track this emotional style and prevent it from ruling your life.
2.
Do あなた find yourself irritated when someone keeps あなた from doing what あなた want?
Do あなた feel that あなた are somehow special, and the rules don't apply to you?
Your emotional style could be Entitlement.
Entitlement
People with this emotional style feel that rules don't apply to them. They may have been spoiled as a child, または the 愛 they received was based on a certain quality — looks, academics, athletic skills. These people often exaggerate their prowess, usually to hide a feeling of inadequacy, または feel they are entitled to もっと見る than their fair share of compensation. They also display a lack of self-discipline, and the inability to delay gratification.
If your emotional style is entitlement, try to be aware of the negative impact your actions have on the people around you. Mindfulness can help あなた learn to catch yourself before あなた overstep appropriate limits, and connect with your deeper feelings so あなた can deal with them directly.
3.
Are あなた drawn to people who control あなた または make decisions for you?
Do あなた feel guilty about having needs または wants of your own?
Do あなた feel resentful when your needs または wishes aren't considered?
Your emotional style could be Subjugation.
Subjugation
This emotional style revolves around the feeling that your own needs never take priority in an intimate relationship. These people give in easily, but their hidden resentment can smolder into anger and rage. Some will overreact at the least sign of being controlled, while others are unable to make even a simple commitment.
If this describes you, get in touch with your resentment, so that あなた can begin to assert your wishes and needs effectively. Being mindful will help あなた track your automatic reactions — the anger または thoughts that are primed によって the fear that あなた will be controlled.
4.
When あなた were young, were あなた made to feel that あなた didn't belong in some way?
Do あなた tend to feel like an outsider in a group?
Are あなた shy and self-conscious in social situations?
Your emotional style could be Exclusion.
Exclusion
Finding yourself on the outside of things often leads to this emotional style. The perceived message is, "You're not like us." This feeling typically causes a person to stay on the edge of the action, reinforcing the feeling of exclusion. This may lead avoidance of groups in adulthood, または conversely, cause someone to revel in their outcast role.
If あなた feel excluded, learn to feel and challenge your fears によって making efforts to initiate conversations, and learning to master your anxiety. Mindfulness will help あなた step back from thoughts that make あなた uncomfortable.
5.
Do あなた feel people can't be trusted?
As a child, were あなた treated unfairly または abused?
Do あなた feel that people あなた are close to will betray your trust?
Your emotional style could be Mistrust.
Mistrust
Suspiciousness and a quick temper are typical of this emotional style. Often the mistrust stems from having been physically, sexually, または emotionally abused. People of this style tend to gravitate to relationships in which their worst fears are confirmed, getting involved with people who treat them badly.
If this describes you, あなた may want to work with a therapist specializing in clients who have been abused. Treatment may involve revisiting your memories and expressing your anger, which is an essential emotional step. Mindfulness can help あなた become aware of your tendency to assume betrayal, and help あなた challenge those thoughts
6.
As a child, were あなた put down または made to feel inept?
Do あなた fear あなた won't succeed at anything, no matter how hard あなた try?
Do あなた feel that あなた don't deserve the success you've had?
Your emotional style could be Failure.
Failure
A typical feeling in this emotional style is being deficient despite one's accomplishments. This can lead people to push themselves extremely hard, despite the constant fear of failure. Some fall prey to the imposter phenomenon — あなた succeed, but secretly feel you're a fraud and will be found out. Others discover that believing they will fail becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If あなた see yourself in this emotional style, learn to もっと見る accurately assess your talents and abilities, as well as accept that your accomplishments are truly deserved. Being mindful will help あなた identify and challenge your internal negative thoughts.
7.
Do あなた feel that if people knew the "real" you, they would see that you're flawed?
Do あなた feel a sense of shame that keeps あなた from letting people get close?
Are あなた drawn to people who are critical and rejecting of you?
Your emotional style could be Unlovability.
Unlovability
The automatic assumption that "I'm not lovable" typifies this emotional style. Shame and humiliation, along with a feeling of being flawed, are this style's prominent emotions. Two patterns are seen in people who feel unlovable. Some give in to their deep feeling of unworthiness, while others hide behind arrogance, seeking public recognition and adulation.
People with this emotional style may find it hard to be genuine in a relationship. One thing あなた can do is challenge the thoughts that amplify your flaws. Mindfulness will help あなた learn to feel confident that those close to あなた know and 愛 あなた as あなた are, and あなた will begin to heal.
8.
Do あなた hold yourself to the highest standards, but feel it's never good enough?
When あなた were young, were あなた made to feel あなた could always do better, no matter what あなた accomplished?
Do your relationships または health suffer because あなた push yourself too hard?
Your emotional style could be Perfectionism.
Perfectionism
People with this emotional style unrelentingly hold themselves to the highest standards. No matter how well they do, it's never good enough, so they drive themselves until the rest of their life suffers. This emotional style drives people to push themselves in sports, at school, in physical appearance, または for social status.
If this emotional style applies to you, realize that lowering your standards will be a relief. あなた will have time and energy to have your other needs met, including the need for downtime. Being mindful will help あなた examine and challenge the self-criticism.
9.
Do あなた often feel that people don't really care about your needs または tune into your feelings?
Do あなた often find yourself in a caretaker role with others?
Are あなた drawn to relationships with people who are cold, または self-absorbed?
Your emotional style could be Deprivation.
Deprivation
At the ハート, 心 of this emotional style is the belief, "My needs won't be met." No matter how much is 与えられた to people of this style, it never feels like enough. Some people overindulge in an attempt to nurture themselves, while others become the caretaker they never had, and may gravitate to careers in which they help others, like social work または nursing.
If your emotional style is deprivation, examine how your need to be nurtured affects your relationships. あなた should become aware of a tendency to distort your interpretation of the actions of others. People might enjoy your company without wanting anything more. Mindfulness will help あなた begin to communicate your needs もっと見る clearly, and to seek もっと見る emotionally available partners.
10.
Do あなた often have the fear that something bad will happen to あなた または a loved one?
Do your fears keep あなた from doing things that あなた would like?
Are あなた overly preoccupied with worries about health または finances?
Your emotional style could be Vulnerability.
Vulnerability
The key element of this emotional style is an exaggerated fear that something terrible is about to happen. This can lead to thriftiness to the point of denying yourself pleasure, または embracing some health fad to ward of disease. At its extreme, it takes the form of a phobia, like fear of flying. Some people react によって constantly seeking reassurance, while others overcompensate によって taking risks.
People with this emotional style can win emotional freedom によって mindfully monitoring their thoughts, rather than letting them dictate their behavior. Meditation can also help calm your mind
I got this from Oprah btw. >.<
What's Your Emotional Style?Most people can identify with at least one of these emotional styles. Read each of the following groups of questions, and then begin to discover your own emotional style:
1.
Did あなた have a loss early in life that makes あなた fear losing people? Do あなた cling to people または push them away because you're afraid of losing them? In relationships, are あなた so obsessed with the fear you'll be left, that あなた push people away?
Your emotional style could be Abandonment.
Abandonment
The ongoing fear that people will leave is at the root of this emotional style. These people may fear that if they rock the ボート in the smallest way, the ones they 愛 will leave. Or, they may adapt によって running away from a relationship before they can be hurt.
If this emotional style applies to you, it's important to learn that あなた won't fall apart if someone leaves you. Be aware of the fear that any kind of abandonment stirs up — hypersensitivity to separation, dread of being isolated. Mindfulness can help track this emotional style and prevent it from ruling your life.
2.
Do あなた find yourself irritated when someone keeps あなた from doing what あなた want?
Do あなた feel that あなた are somehow special, and the rules don't apply to you?
Your emotional style could be Entitlement.
Entitlement
People with this emotional style feel that rules don't apply to them. They may have been spoiled as a child, または the 愛 they received was based on a certain quality — looks, academics, athletic skills. These people often exaggerate their prowess, usually to hide a feeling of inadequacy, または feel they are entitled to もっと見る than their fair share of compensation. They also display a lack of self-discipline, and the inability to delay gratification.
If your emotional style is entitlement, try to be aware of the negative impact your actions have on the people around you. Mindfulness can help あなた learn to catch yourself before あなた overstep appropriate limits, and connect with your deeper feelings so あなた can deal with them directly.
3.
Are あなた drawn to people who control あなた または make decisions for you?
Do あなた feel guilty about having needs または wants of your own?
Do あなた feel resentful when your needs または wishes aren't considered?
Your emotional style could be Subjugation.
Subjugation
This emotional style revolves around the feeling that your own needs never take priority in an intimate relationship. These people give in easily, but their hidden resentment can smolder into anger and rage. Some will overreact at the least sign of being controlled, while others are unable to make even a simple commitment.
If this describes you, get in touch with your resentment, so that あなた can begin to assert your wishes and needs effectively. Being mindful will help あなた track your automatic reactions — the anger または thoughts that are primed によって the fear that あなた will be controlled.
4.
When あなた were young, were あなた made to feel that あなた didn't belong in some way?
Do あなた tend to feel like an outsider in a group?
Are あなた shy and self-conscious in social situations?
Your emotional style could be Exclusion.
Exclusion
Finding yourself on the outside of things often leads to this emotional style. The perceived message is, "You're not like us." This feeling typically causes a person to stay on the edge of the action, reinforcing the feeling of exclusion. This may lead avoidance of groups in adulthood, または conversely, cause someone to revel in their outcast role.
If あなた feel excluded, learn to feel and challenge your fears によって making efforts to initiate conversations, and learning to master your anxiety. Mindfulness will help あなた step back from thoughts that make あなた uncomfortable.
5.
Do あなた feel people can't be trusted?
As a child, were あなた treated unfairly または abused?
Do あなた feel that people あなた are close to will betray your trust?
Your emotional style could be Mistrust.
Mistrust
Suspiciousness and a quick temper are typical of this emotional style. Often the mistrust stems from having been physically, sexually, または emotionally abused. People of this style tend to gravitate to relationships in which their worst fears are confirmed, getting involved with people who treat them badly.
If this describes you, あなた may want to work with a therapist specializing in clients who have been abused. Treatment may involve revisiting your memories and expressing your anger, which is an essential emotional step. Mindfulness can help あなた become aware of your tendency to assume betrayal, and help あなた challenge those thoughts
6.
As a child, were あなた put down または made to feel inept?
Do あなた fear あなた won't succeed at anything, no matter how hard あなた try?
Do あなた feel that あなた don't deserve the success you've had?
Your emotional style could be Failure.
Failure
A typical feeling in this emotional style is being deficient despite one's accomplishments. This can lead people to push themselves extremely hard, despite the constant fear of failure. Some fall prey to the imposter phenomenon — あなた succeed, but secretly feel you're a fraud and will be found out. Others discover that believing they will fail becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If あなた see yourself in this emotional style, learn to もっと見る accurately assess your talents and abilities, as well as accept that your accomplishments are truly deserved. Being mindful will help あなた identify and challenge your internal negative thoughts.
7.
Do あなた feel that if people knew the "real" you, they would see that you're flawed?
Do あなた feel a sense of shame that keeps あなた from letting people get close?
Are あなた drawn to people who are critical and rejecting of you?
Your emotional style could be Unlovability.
Unlovability
The automatic assumption that "I'm not lovable" typifies this emotional style. Shame and humiliation, along with a feeling of being flawed, are this style's prominent emotions. Two patterns are seen in people who feel unlovable. Some give in to their deep feeling of unworthiness, while others hide behind arrogance, seeking public recognition and adulation.
People with this emotional style may find it hard to be genuine in a relationship. One thing あなた can do is challenge the thoughts that amplify your flaws. Mindfulness will help あなた learn to feel confident that those close to あなた know and 愛 あなた as あなた are, and あなた will begin to heal.
8.
Do あなた hold yourself to the highest standards, but feel it's never good enough?
When あなた were young, were あなた made to feel あなた could always do better, no matter what あなた accomplished?
Do your relationships または health suffer because あなた push yourself too hard?
Your emotional style could be Perfectionism.
Perfectionism
People with this emotional style unrelentingly hold themselves to the highest standards. No matter how well they do, it's never good enough, so they drive themselves until the rest of their life suffers. This emotional style drives people to push themselves in sports, at school, in physical appearance, または for social status.
If this emotional style applies to you, realize that lowering your standards will be a relief. あなた will have time and energy to have your other needs met, including the need for downtime. Being mindful will help あなた examine and challenge the self-criticism.
9.
Do あなた often feel that people don't really care about your needs または tune into your feelings?
Do あなた often find yourself in a caretaker role with others?
Are あなた drawn to relationships with people who are cold, または self-absorbed?
Your emotional style could be Deprivation.
Deprivation
At the ハート, 心 of this emotional style is the belief, "My needs won't be met." No matter how much is 与えられた to people of this style, it never feels like enough. Some people overindulge in an attempt to nurture themselves, while others become the caretaker they never had, and may gravitate to careers in which they help others, like social work または nursing.
If your emotional style is deprivation, examine how your need to be nurtured affects your relationships. あなた should become aware of a tendency to distort your interpretation of the actions of others. People might enjoy your company without wanting anything more. Mindfulness will help あなた begin to communicate your needs もっと見る clearly, and to seek もっと見る emotionally available partners.
10.
Do あなた often have the fear that something bad will happen to あなた または a loved one?
Do your fears keep あなた from doing things that あなた would like?
Are あなた overly preoccupied with worries about health または finances?
Your emotional style could be Vulnerability.
Vulnerability
The key element of this emotional style is an exaggerated fear that something terrible is about to happen. This can lead to thriftiness to the point of denying yourself pleasure, または embracing some health fad to ward of disease. At its extreme, it takes the form of a phobia, like fear of flying. Some people react によって constantly seeking reassurance, while others overcompensate によって taking risks.
People with this emotional style can win emotional freedom によって mindfully monitoring their thoughts, rather than letting them dictate their behavior. Meditation can also help calm your mind