Today, I diagnosed metastatic cancer in a new patient who had just come to see me. I had to tell this young, beautiful, vibrant woman that did not not have long to live, perhaps a few months. There was nothing I could do for her. All I could do was to tell her that I cared for her. I could 表示する her my professional “love.” My consultation レポート was faxed to the patient’s referring primary physician, and an 時 later, the physician called me, in disbelief. Together on the phone, we could only share a sense of profound loss.
あなた might read this and think: 愛 is useless in this case. 愛 will not cure her cancer, nor will 愛 protect her from the pain and suffering that is imminent. And あなた would be absolutely correct. But what is the alternative to love? Is it hate? Is it apathy?
When I was younger, I used to consider that only actions and accomplishments are truly useful. あなた can 一覧 them, objectively and concretely. あなた can measure productivity and compare the results to other people’s activities. But when there is no useful action, as in this case, is there nothing left but despair? When someone hurts you, is there nothing to do but retaliate? Medically, it has been shown that hate hurts あなた physically just as much, if not more, than the person あなた hate. Scientifically, it has been shown that despair pains あなた mentally just as much, if not more, than actual bodily trauma.
So, should あなた choose “love”, because it is the lesser of two evils? Well, I certainly do not think so. As I get older and accumulate もっと見る knowledge and experience, I realize もっと見る how little control I have over life in general. Maybe あなた did not have a good childhood, perhaps people have done horrible things to you, natural disasters occur, and now あなた are helpless.
Please realize that the only thing あなた have under your control is how あなた feel and how あなた will react to external events. Unless あなた have a psychiatric illness, あなた can choose to “love” または あなた can choose to “hate.” None of us lives forever. Do あなた want to wait until you’re lying on your deathbed before あなた think “maybe I should have been nicer to this person または to that person?” または do あなた want to evaluate every 日 of your life whether あなた have contributed in some way some 愛 to the world that day? I offer あなた my humble opinion that “Love is THE answer – every 日 of the year!”
あなた might read this and think: 愛 is useless in this case. 愛 will not cure her cancer, nor will 愛 protect her from the pain and suffering that is imminent. And あなた would be absolutely correct. But what is the alternative to love? Is it hate? Is it apathy?
When I was younger, I used to consider that only actions and accomplishments are truly useful. あなた can 一覧 them, objectively and concretely. あなた can measure productivity and compare the results to other people’s activities. But when there is no useful action, as in this case, is there nothing left but despair? When someone hurts you, is there nothing to do but retaliate? Medically, it has been shown that hate hurts あなた physically just as much, if not more, than the person あなた hate. Scientifically, it has been shown that despair pains あなた mentally just as much, if not more, than actual bodily trauma.
So, should あなた choose “love”, because it is the lesser of two evils? Well, I certainly do not think so. As I get older and accumulate もっと見る knowledge and experience, I realize もっと見る how little control I have over life in general. Maybe あなた did not have a good childhood, perhaps people have done horrible things to you, natural disasters occur, and now あなた are helpless.
Please realize that the only thing あなた have under your control is how あなた feel and how あなた will react to external events. Unless あなた have a psychiatric illness, あなた can choose to “love” または あなた can choose to “hate.” None of us lives forever. Do あなた want to wait until you’re lying on your deathbed before あなた think “maybe I should have been nicer to this person または to that person?” または do あなた want to evaluate every 日 of your life whether あなた have contributed in some way some 愛 to the world that day? I offer あなた my humble opinion that “Love is THE answer – every 日 of the year!”
