I believe it was Alyssa in Chasing Amy who 発言しました it best: "I came to this on my terms. I didn't just heed what I was taught, あなた know? Men and women should be together, it's the natural way - that kind of thing. I'm not with あなた because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from 日 one. The way the world is - how seldom あなた meet that one person who gets you... it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There was no example set for me in the world of male/female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person - to immediately half your options によって eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender... that just seemed stupid. So I didn't. And によって leaving my options open, I was branded 'gay', which to me was no big deal - labels are labels, あなた know? They define what あなた do, not who あなた are, I guess. But then あなた come along. あなた - the one least likely; I mean, あなた were a guy."
So my アドバイス to あなた is this: When some nosy, label-oriented person demands that あなた tell them your sexuality-- a very personal revelation, even if あなた decide to classify yourself as "straight"-- tell them that あなた are interested in falling in 愛 with a person. Why? Because it's the truth.
Alyssa (or Kevin Smith) is right when she says that it's about finding that one person, regardless of gender, that あなた feel the most comfortable with, and who あなた care the most about. It has been 発言しました many times that the LGBT community isn't about gender, it's about love and that is the truest phrase that could ever be 発言しました on the subject.
I have been accused myself of lumping too many things under labels in this spot and elsewhere, and I own up to it. I even made a link where I asked あなた to identify your sexuality. Why? Because we feel comfortable with labels. Coming out and declaring "I'm gay!" is both a terrifying and liberating experience, because it means that we are something, and it's easier to be something clear than to be something obscure. We are comfortable with labels because they give us our identity while simultaneously dividing us from the rest of the world. And now, I'm not just talking about gay, straight, bi-- I'm talking democrat, republican, black, white, Asian, Arab, American, French, British, Canadian, girl, boy, teen, adult-- Anything that あなた choose to identify yourself as. It's good to be something, but don't forget the label that fits あなた like a glove-- Human.
"Love is 愛 is love," 発言しました Paulo in link によって Octavio Solis. It is beyond labels. It is beyond comprehension, and it is beyond the laws of physics.
It just is.
So break the societal mold: Fall in 愛 with a person.
