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I require someone's assistance..

I have three フレンズ who are depressed, and usually come to me for advice- but, I have depression as well. I tried using my experience as a way to relate and help them, but when the time calls for it, I struggle on what to say and I fear it makes matters worse for them. The pressure of trying to keep them afloat is dragging me under- I just don't have the 回答 because I wasn't 与えられた them with my own issues. ..I just don't know what to say または if I should have someone else help them..

Have any advice?
 NightFrog posted 1年以上前
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Prawls8612 said:
I think the best thing right now would be first, to see exactly what is making あなた depressed write them out または think about it and try to fix the issues によって looking at each issue individually. When あなた brake it up, the issues might not be as big as あなた think they are.

Then have our フレンズ do the same. Talking to a councelor is good too! I have recently been to one and its helped me out A LOT. I think あなた should try sorting out your own problems first before あなた worry about your friends. One happy person makes もっと見る happy people. Worry about yourself もっと見る but also try to give some アドバイス to your friends. Remember that a councelor is always good to talk too.

I hope I helped!
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posted 1年以上前 
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Thank あなた :)
NightFrog posted 1年以上前
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Anytime :)
Prawls8612 posted 1年以上前
CrystalMirage said:
I think that Prawls was right to suggest getting some help for yourself first.

It sounds a bit selfish, but I think that you'd have an easier time helping your フレンズ out if some of your problems were solved as well. It's almost like doing work at school または at one's job; they apply the skills they know または have just learned, and then teach others if needed. It may not seem to be the best example, but if あなた know what I'm trying to convey, then the rest should be simple for you.

I understand that あなた want to have your フレンズ get better, but I think that あなた should have a bit もっと見る confidence. Don't take this as "bringing あなた down"; people can often sense the uncertainty and worry within others. Better to feel like あなた know what you're doing, または at least put up some kind of front that lets others know that あなた know what to do to some extent. As Prawls had told you, head to a counselor to see what they could do for あなた and your friends. If あなた think that あなた can't wait to help them, then why not see a counselor at the same time, but in different intervals? In other words, on the same 日 but at different tiems (since I believe my wording was lacking for better ones).

Depression can really be annoying and (obviously) upsetting, but it can be fixed. It doesn't always require medication または doctoral help, as some might think, so let there be no worries for that. Sometimes just talking to someone can really help あなた out; I know that it feels good to let someone know how あなた feel and to get it off of your chest.

Good luck to you, and feel free to ask any other 質問 that あなた might have.
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Thank あなた :)
NightFrog posted 1年以上前
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