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For some reason my best friend is ignoring me...

Ok, so I have this friend who I'll call "Katie". We've known each other since third grade, and became close フレンズ during the fifth grade. So she's one of those Golden フレンズ to me, あなた know? :)
Well, lately she's been 芝居 really weird. Since my first 日 of my sophomore year, she hasn't talked to me. We do have different classes and a different schedule, but sometimes we see each other in the hallway. And right before I give her a quick hello, she'd turn away and walk right on like she didn't see me.
At first I didn't think much of it, but then I called her to ask her about a haunted house we could go to for Halloween. She wasn't there so I left a message asking her to call me back so we could talk about something. That was like around two weeks ago, and she didn't call me.

Today was another round of me seeing her, her seeing me, her ignoring me and walking on. I just don't get it! What did I do?

I thought that she may be upset about a problem I had with her ex-boyfriend from last year. But I doubt it, because two weeks before the first 日 of school she was at my birthday party and showed no signs of being mad about something. And I barely talk to her now, so I don't know what I could have done to make her mad during the school year.

I'm just really confused right now....does anyone have any possible ideas on what could be going on with her, または what I could do? :(
 sapherequeen posted 1年以上前
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dreamfields said:
First of all don't assume that あなた did something wrong. It's hard when a friend isn't talking to あなた and easy to take it personal. There maybe something going on in Katie's life that she is having trouble dealing with. In those situations, any one of us might be tempted to アサリ, クラム, ハマグリ up, thinking that others wouldn't understand.
Be patient, friendly and open. If she is having problems, it will only strengthen your friendship if she sees you're not giving up on her.
If あなた feel the need to be proactive, あなた could ask her if there's something wrong and assure her あなた just want to help. If あなた do decide to ask, make sure あなた two have privacy. This will make her feel 安全, 安全です and she would be less likely to react badly than if she thinks others might hear.
If she does bring up something that she is upset about with you. Listen! Even if it's something else bothering her, listen to what she says. After she is done, take a moment to think about what she said. If she is upset with you, think from her point of view. If she is right, then apologize. (Sometimes we can do things with good intentions and not know we've hurt someone.) If it was a misunderstanding, explain softly what あなた meant and acknowledge her feelings.
If she shares a different problem, listen and 表示する compassion. Keep what she shares between the two of you, unless it's something that could harm her.
Be a friend, do what あなた can. Maybe even pray for her. Sooner または later I think she'll open up again.
Good Luck & God Bless.
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