For those who goes to university. Are あなた there because your parents told あなた または it's your choice?
If あなた did say college I would have answered lol but even though your only talking about Uni then yes I did feel pressured によって my family that I had to go to college right after I graduated. =_=
I've already graduated, but I went there because I felt pressured によって my family and my class - accelerated class - to go to uni right after high school. I would do anything to go back, think about what I actually want, then either enter uni later または go ahead with a different plan. It wasn't my choice, I felt like I had to または I'd be a disappointment.
posted 1年以上前
Pretty similar to my case. Only in my case I felt pressured to choose the field that wasn't my first choice and unfortunately it's really backfired hard. And if I could go back, I'd definitely do things differently. No doubt there.
I mean it's entirely my choice and I wouldn't change it but then again, I think NOT going to uni isn't a valid choice in my family lol. Like it's my choice but I was always brought up in a way that basically socialised me into that choice.
Honestly though I'd be so bad at a trade. Like I am absolutely pathetic when it comes to spatial awareness and doing shit with my hands. I joke about staging a glorious proletariat revolution but I'd probs be priority-listed for the gulag :)
I did it entirely out of my own choice. Almost all my goals and possible paths have 大学 as a requirement and truthfully, I would hate myself and be disappointed in myself if I didn't continue to some higher level education
And that I know is unhealthy of me XD Its a mix because I was raised with my academics and education being one of the largest methods in defining my worth in my family and just because I'd go insane without the heavy workload (and because excelling and a 愛 for learning is a good part of my identity)
With that being said, my parents would definately treat me like a disappointment / a failure if I didn't go so I wouldn't lie and say that it isn't also because of my parents.
Additionally if I didn't go to 大学 I wouldn't have been able to escape my family so thats another thing.
posted 1年以上前
.... I didn't mean for this to become so dark and depressing. I am SUPER happy being at college and I originally explained it like that cos like.... Its true and major reasons I went to university. Then I back tracked and realized a lot of it sounded dark
But yeah I don't doubt at all that if I didn't go to 大学 I would be that dissapointment, lazy, garbage, trash daughter who they cant live vicariously through *shrugs* Instead though I have a really strong drive for knowledge and to do a lot so it doesn't really bother me
Going to 大学 was my own choice. Archaeology in particular was a Subject I always wanted to follow. To be もっと見る exact, Paleontology is the higher goal but in order to attain it there are tasks that need to be completed first. So, killing two birds with one stone, I guess?
My Family have been urging me to rethink and take other alternatives into account though they look at the current Profession I am studying in a positive light. As for me, I might kinda regret not looking over all the available options that I was having. Don't get me wrong. I don't regret my choice as it concerns a passion of mine and I 愛 it but at times, I can't help but think what is the point even if I graduate. One もっと見る paper is always good to have when looking for a job hence I'm all about my submission to 大学 but that doesn't mean that the one I have in sight is guaranteed. I'll work to get there and make it happen for sure but still, there are a lot of other things to consider. The circumstances in my Country aren't the best regarding Jobs and if I want to travel aboard, I'll be needing connections and the proper funding to back me up. Something quite hard at the moment that requires even もっと見る time, effort and possibly some certain sacrifices.
For now, I do what I can and will see where that leads me to. Can't say anything for sure regarding the future and I prefer not to ponder about it until the right time comes. It only puts もっと見る stress on my being !!!!
my my, a complicated question. Going to uni was my own choice. The career i chose however wasnt. I wanted to take something artsy, but my family thought of it as not taking things seriously. As a result i chose nursing instead.
I was pondering on quitting nursing and going for becoming a clinical psychologist now.