frustrating people?

While I agree that people who aren't ファン should butt out, I think あなた may need to research the genre a little more. Yes, やおい started out as pointless gay-ish 愛 making. And I myself do enjoy a little twincest here and there,but the label of "yaoi" has recently started to branch out. It's not just unrealistic gay relationships anymore! I was happy to find some actual gay 愛 that wasn't between two 15-year-old scrawny guys that aren't actually that good looking. But you've got terms confused. "Shounen Ai" is romance and "Shota" is やおい with kids. College students aren't shota unless the kid is under the age of 13 and is smart enough to be in college. And they may not all be "newbs". I've been a ファン for about 6 years now and I believe that my affection for the typical やおい guy was just teenage hormones. My 愛 of やおい has been fine-tuned and,while I will still look at scrawny twinky-men,I believe that あなた may be the one who's the "newb". Not to offend,but since あなた probably offended a few,most women/men who like やおい end up hating the stereotypical version. I think that many of the younger やおい fangirls are actually closeted homophobes. That is,they wouldn't react to real gay men the way they react to yaoi.