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When did あなた start being comfortable with yourself as a sexual person?

I know this is kind of an odd question, especially as there are many younger people here. But what spurs my 質問 is the observation we have about younger people here-specifically in the US, where we do give very mixed messages about sexuality. For example, we' re all expected to look "hot" to some degree, yet there seems to be reluctance to own up to being sexually responsible. In our community, which is socially conservative, young people; women in particular, will not go on a 日付 prepared with some form of birth control b/c that would be slutty. They will have sex, but being prepared is somehow considered wrong. I know it's not this way in other countries; I'm just curious about anyone else's thoughts. It took me well into my 20's to really feel good about myself sexually.
 jester616 posted １年以上前
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Sinna_Hime_chan said:
What an interesting point Sweetie, yes...I could not agree more. From the time I became sexually active I wanted to be reponsible, my parents agreed, but instead of allowing me birth control, they tricked me and put me in treatment O.O - I have always believed the male should be reponsible while at the same time I felt females should be equaly and in order to protect themselves. I was a big advocate of condoms and safe sex always. I saw myself as a sexual being probably around 13... and even though I was promiscuous young {in my opinion}, I did NOT share any of my activities or discuss my personal life with anyone. I think I was still shy about talking about my own sex life-some things even AFTER marriage. I married young too. I suppose all that is chalked up to immaturity and screwy motives & beliefs, but I feel like "the look" should not be taught like that. It sends a signal & a message. The superficial comes with a price & a call to back that up by the knowledge & responsibility. It should be openly discussed.
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I've met many women who married quite young, either to get out of their parents' homes または to have sex in a way that fits their religious beliefs. Usually divorce is the result. This only troubles me because of the confusing messages we send about sexuality, not that there's anything wrong with getting a divorce when あなた know the relationship just isn't salvageable. Having a "good" sex life seems fairly important to most people, yet あなた wouldn't know it によって the the way it's treated here. You're absolutely right that younger people know "the look" but are naive to the message it sends. Not blaming them; after all, when I was about 12, I dressed like a slob and I still got hit on によって older guys. No one prepared me for that!
jester616 posted １年以上前
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And then I felt like I did something wrong. Anyway, I'm just going on at this point. あなた sound like you've been through a lot, so it's fascinating 読書 what あなた have to say.
jester616 posted １年以上前
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Jess, あなた are soooo right on the money. I know a person never can tell about what to expect, whether things will work out または not, no guarantee, even if they are willing to try everything, DO best efforts, and with all their heart. That idealism, looking back, in retrospect, I almost have to laugh- laugh または cry they say. I thought everything would workout. I wanted the perfect wedding. I thought I was willing through sickness and in health and in every problem and aspect to deal with it, as best I could, & thought I was prepared. Life throws real curve balls sometimes. Sad. Whenever I hear some of these people speak so idealistic I cringe at it. I think: hope it GREAT, but I DO believe it needs to be tempered によって the responsibility あなた mentioned. Divorce SUCKS. It is a horrible-horrible thing where people suffer, especially if children are involved. It is always painful, and no one does want that. No one wants rape, no one wants to be abused... .
Sinna_Hime_chan posted １年以上前
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