Am I the only 1 who feels a moment of complete rejection when a trade on any of the many sites that allow trades is deleted?

And even when あなた ask them to 編集 and あなた send a message saying あなた what them to 編集 and discus what they want they still 削除 it as if あなた didn't say anything to them...you send it specifically as an 編集 so they would add または take off または whatever...and they just say it was bad and your like "i know it was bad tht's why i sent あなた a message saying it was bad so u could tell me what u want and tht's why it was sent as a suggestion so u could change it"