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アドバイス needed (props for all SERIOUS answers)

I'm only posting this here because the アドバイス spot is kinda dead and I feel I'll have もっと見る luck here.

I'm gonna try to explain my situation as briefly as possible. Please くま, クマ with me :L I'm really in need of advice.

So, typical issue: I'm heavily infatuated with my guy friend. I've liked him for a long time now, and I can honestly say I've NEVER liked a guy as much as I like him. We hang out twice per week at a lounge, doing homework and stuff like that, because we both have time gaps between classes. I absolutely 愛 those days; being with him is always the highlight of my 日 and I feel that we connect really well. I even went to his band's コンサート with a mutual friend down in another city a few weeks ago. I feel like I flirt with him a lot, but he seems to be one of those guys who doesn't really pick up on it. (He is very intelligent, don't get me wrong).

I used to always scoff at the idea of actually telling him how I feel. However, lately I've been contemplating the idea of it. I 愛 the friendship we've developed and I'd hate to ruin it. Also... I don't think he likes me in that way. I mean, I suppose it's possible, but it hasn't been made evident and I know it's highly likely he only thinks of me as a friend. But the thing is... I still just want to tell him. I hate keeping such a big secret from him and it makes me feel like I'm being dishonest in a way. Also, I'd hate to live with the regret of "what could've been" if I would've tried. There's no guarantee that telling him will ruin the friendship, but I still am afraid to take the risk.

There are about 5 weeks left of the semester, and I don't know if we'll both have break times between classes again 次 semester. So that means these could be my last 5 weeks of seeing him regularly and my last opportunities to try and "take action." People say to just casually ask him to go do something like a movie または a meal, but I feel that might be a little weird to ask that since we hang out regularly
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(sorry, it didn't post the rest): since we hang out regularly anyways, and he is also a very busy person in general. What do あなた guys think? Should I just tell him that I like him, being fully prepared for rejection but just taking the risk and not having to live with the regret of "what if"? または is it not worth it to risk the friendship? And yes, I will give リスペクト for answering...
xWiildfiire posted １年以上前
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あなた are so lucky to have breaks in between classes?!?!??!
prussiaducky posted １年以上前
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And thank あなた all for your answers. I will definitely take all of this into account. So far, including フレンズ and family I've talked to, the majority have 発言しました to go for it lol. This information has been very helpful, so thanks again :P
xWiildfiire posted １年以上前
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Max277 said:
Well I personally think あなた should tell him how あなた feel. If he doesn't like what あなた feel about him then he's a jerk. A movie wouldn't be a bad idea あなた should probably try it. If he ask why, tell him あなた just really wanted to see the movie and know one would come with あなた to see it. If あなた do ask him out and he says no, then he didn't really "like you" I mean it's not awkward to have feelings for a friend that あなた have known forever. I have had close フレンズ that I liked but never asked them out. But あなた should try it. It's not gonna hurt if あなた just ask him. If あなた end up do asking him out and he says no, that doesn't mean あなた guys can't still be friends. For an example I had a huge crush on this guy, one of my フレンズ found out and told him that I liked him. But that didn't ruin our friendship we had. We were still good friends. All I can tell あなた is, give it a try. If あなた only got 5 weeks to ask him I'd get on it. Because people don't wait forever. Hopefully this helpped!!! Please let me know what happens!!!
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posted １年以上前 
zikkiforever said:
We all got to takes risks in life. Just do it. Now is all seriousness,it is better to not go what could have been. Just ease into it. If あなた hang our regularly then あなた should be comfortable around each other.

If there ain't long left of the semester,it is better to do it. Go with the moment. It won't wreck your friendship. あなた can't control feelings. Maybe get a mate in there and ask him what he thinks of you.

It will save the embarrassment if a friend finds out if he likes あなた as a friend または not. He may not feel that way ,but not everybody will.

Don't ask him out on a 日付 yet. Ask him to help あなた to a review on a movie,review on a 食 place または something. Ask him for help,if it was meant to be it will become もっと見る than it started out. Don't say it is a 日付 または that will make him nervous. If sparks fly between BOTH of あなた ,then there あなた go.

あなた could even try avoiding him for a while. It may sound silly ,but he likes あなた that much he will come to あなた and ask why you're avoiding him. If he doesn't notice maybe your not as close as あなた think.

1.Ask a friend to find out.
2.Make up an occasion
3.Avoid him

If your フレンズ レポート back with bad news 移動する on it will hurt ,but it happens. I am sure あなた won't get married like people think,it never turns out a school 愛 is your special somebody.
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posted １年以上前 
Dreamtime said:
hold the props
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wait till the 5 weeks ends
then tell him how あなた feel
if あなた confess to him now and it ends bad "let us just be friends" you'll get your heartbroken and disappointed
and あなた may not concentrate on exams and get bad grades
so yeah
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posted １年以上前 
LiveLoveMusic said:
1. If you're too scared to do it, just don't do it. Keep your friendship the way it is if あなた don't want to take a risk :-)

2. Ask another friend to tell him if you're the shy type like me. I did that once, actually and it worked. If you're not shy, then just ignore this...

3. Tell him how あなた feel. I think that there could be a big chance that he likes あなた too. I have a friend who's boyfriend doesn't really act like a boyfriend, but don't get me wrong, he likes her. At least try. If he doesn't like あなた back, I'm sure you'll still be friends.

4. Wait until the end of the semester. If あなた want some time to think about how you're going to tell him, this is a good thing to do.

Any one あなた pick, good luck either way.
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posted １年以上前 
Foreve1D said:
I had the same problem!!!!! I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I'm telling あなた right now, that if this guy is as good of a friend as he's coming across, then he'll be able to take あなた approaching him about it. I confronted my guy and no, he didn't like me back but we still remained フレンズ after that and it felt good to get it off my chest. It was like it almost never happened that awkward moment there. But why waste your time saying "What if?" and just go for it. Guys may be unpredictable, but maybe he's just 芝居 like he doesn't like あなた because he thinks あなた might not like him. He may have had his ハート, 心 broken before and is just afraid. There is no harm in trying. Hope this helped!
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posted １年以上前 
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Let me know what happens please!
Foreve1D posted １年以上前
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Haha. If anything remarkable goes down, I'll fill あなた in :P
xWiildfiire posted １年以上前
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Thanks that would be great! :)
Foreve1D posted １年以上前
karolinak1999 said:
awwh thats so cute!!!!

Don't tell him, 表示する him when the time is right and あなた two are alone....lean in and キッス him - like in the 映画 lol!!!!! but I'm serious, if your in a moment あなた two are alone.......The other thinh あなた should look at is are あなた in his league?!......and are あなた sure he's not gay??, I'm serious ***but don't want any props!!!
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posted １年以上前 
prussiaducky said:
I wouldn't if I were you, just keep the beautiful friendship. I wouldn't want to ever lose such a friendship. That's me though, take the risk if あなた really want to.
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posted １年以上前 
Book-Freak said:
Well, I think あなた should tell him. If あなた feel so passionately about this (and him) あなた should tell him. It might not be easy to do (and he might not feel the same way so あなた should be prepared for that) but he might accept it you'll be closer (he may even feel the same way!).
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