Sampaguitas Dating 

 A Filipina smile is like a flower in bloom

I thought this was a perfect photo for this poem the first time that I saw it. Sorry my editing skills don\'t do it justice. So, I decided to add it here as a fitting compliment!

Why the Name Sampaguitas Dating. A Compliment to the Qualities of a Filipina

Sampaguitas Dating was chosen after careful consideration of the qualities of a Filipina. Asian girls and even women from other countries included. I believe that the stories about the flower and the qualities it has come to stand for, can in a way, describe a pinay and is a compliment to a Filipina. There are so many desirable traits and characteristics to a babae (meaning girl or female) that they deserve a recognition. (A quick note about the word pinay. Some people say it can be derogatory but most every source I have found says otherwise. So, no insult intended.)

The sampaguita flower has its name rooted in Philippine legend and lore and plays a part in its culture. It was named the national flower of the P.I. (Philippine Islands) by the American Governor-general Frank Murphy in 1934. 

As a reference for you I provided this link. Philippines National Flower

This variety of jasmine represents humility, purity, simplicity and strength; sometimes including love, dedication, devotion and fidelity.         

After conducting my own research into the subject and after having been here for awhile I came to the conclusion that these things should also symbolize a compliment to the Pinay and be chosen for the name of Sampaguitas Dating.

Qualities of a Filipina: Humility, Purity, Simplicity, Strength.

Looking into the Republics past, hearing the stories about the lands women and then looking at the present and seeing how much they do to support the family unit and the economy in general it was natural to feel this way. I say this because if you are here for any length of time, you will notice that most establishments whether they are stores or other businesses have more women than men in the front lines and back offices. It is common to find that the girls are working long hours and often times are not paid very well. But, they persevere for themselves and for the futures of their families. The men while important seem to generally be employed in other sectors such as construction, security and the maritime industries and that is a topic for another story.

Sampaguitas comes from the words "sumpa kita" and has depending on the source, a few different meanings that pretty much stand for the same sort of thing. One source gives the meaning "I promise you" while another one gives "You are my promise... You are my vow!" and  "I swear, I swear" in another.  Still a different source translates it into "I pledge myself to you." Basically, to me all the different translations have the same meaning. Strength and purity of devotion to your love!

The legends of the flower I feel are a little varied as I have found more than one story concerning it, but in general they tend to stand for the same type of thing. A love that is strong and pure, with an undying devotion.

One story is about the beautiful Rosita and the only man who captured her heart, the handsome Delfin. Their respective baraguys had a disagreement over the boundary line. Neither side would give in and those types of disagreements usually resulted in bloodshed. So, the two sides prepared and did battle. It was a very bloody affair and Delfin was mortally wounded. Before he died however, he asked his men to take and bury him near the end of the fence line where he and Rosita used to meet in secret. 

Rosita heard about what had happened to her love and became seriously sick. Before she had passed away she had requested to be buried with her eternal love, Delfin, near the end of the fence.

Many years passed and new generations lived in the two baranguys, but all the people living in the area heard, especially during the month of May, the wonderfully sweet voice of a woman saying "sumpa kita...sumpa kita!" (I swear! I swear!) only nobody ever saw anyone in the vicinity. The voice seems to come from little white flowers that produce such a wonderful fragrance that anyone who smells it, immediately loves it. With the passage of time the phrase "sumpa kita" has become to be pronounced sampaguita! 

A second short narration of the legend consists of two lovers. A warrior named Lakam Galing and his lover Lakambini. Before Lakam would go into battle, the two lovers would say "sumpa kita" to express their devotion to each other. When he was killed in a battle she died in grief and little white flowers grew on her grave as a symbol of her love. 

A third legend tells of a beautiful princess named Guita whose father was a ruthless king who had hopes she would meet a prince from a strong kingdom. Instead, Guita met a slave named Sampague, or Sampa, while she was roaming the kingdom and fell in love with him. Her father, the king, found out and ordered Guita to stop seeing Sampa. Guita and Sampa eloped and hid deep in the woods to escape punishment. Her father then sent his soldiers to search the land until they were found. After finding the young love birds the soldiers killed them and buried them in their hiding spot. The king then was filled with remorse and went to visit the grave. He found a shrub with white flowers that had the most wonderful fragrance. He took the fragrance as a sign that he was forgiven by the couple and named the plant Sampaguita.

versions of these legends and stories that I have heard and am not recounting here, so if you are interested do some internet research or even ask a Filipino.

When you get to know a Pilipina (not a typing mistake it is Tagalog, the national language) you realize that there is a greater depth to them than meets the eye. Not knowing the culture and language can confuse a person and give the wrong impression so be careful not to jump to the wrong conclusion. You will probably get a  real surprise and even a rude awakening if you don\'t.

 I also want to point out that to somebody not born here it can take along time to learn all you can about the culture and that there are some things that are never really explained or acknowledged. 

In all the time that I have spent in the Philippines and observed the Philippine lady I believe that the flower is a fitting symbol and a compliment to the Filipina. 

That is how Sampaguitas Dating was chosen as the name of this blog and also as the name for the dating site Sampaguitas.(Link to Sampaguitas is at the top right of the page!)

You may have heard other people talking about someone they know who has met or is dating a Filipina. You ask yourself. "Why date Filipinas? What are the qualities of a Filipina that would make them desirable to a man from another country?"

I admit that before I started to date a girl from the Philippines I asked myself these same questions. I had heard the negative comments made by people about them so I was a little dubious. I was also curious though, because I realized not everyone can be bad or undesirable. But then I met a woman and we started to talk and form an attachment and we started going-out together.

I realized that these girls also have a lot of good qualities and characteristics that make them fun and desirable to befriend, date or even to form a long-term relationship with. I was having more fun and a much more interesting experience by knowing this girl than I had with females from my own country.

 Well, for one thing a lot of us want something different and going-out with a person from another culture is very different. It is new and exciting and even exotic.

     Good Reasons to Date Your Babae

 Fun, Carefree and Playful Attitude of Filipino Girls

To start off I would say that Philippine girls are fun to be around. They can have a carefree and playful attitude that is refreshing and just wonderful to experience. Compare that to women from other cultures who always take everything so serious and you will know what I mean.They will make funny but strange jokes and tell odd stories that are always amusing and can laugh about most anything. Just a couple of weeks ago I was at a resort here in the Philippines and a group of them were gathered in and around the pools. Listening to them talk and seeing them interact amongst themselves as they play around was a joy to me. It just seemed so innocent and carefree. It even seemed they might invite me to hang out with them for awhile, but unfortunately i had to attend a wedding, so wasn\'t able to reciprocate the mood. But I did walk away feeling good.

Most Asian women and girls are hard working and know they need to help provide for the future. Although it was expected in most Asian societies for the man to provide, the females know they should as well, and now are. Always working hard and even long hours they are used to the discipline it takes to form a life. In the Philippines now it is common that most companies are hiring more women compared to men and if you visit you will notice it. Checkout the stores and most places in town and you will surely find many feminine employees and even business owners.

 The responsible side of their nature takes over and they tolerate conditions that would have other women screaming, but they do it because they have to and to ensure that the family back home is taken care of as much as possible. One can only find respect for such dedication and love for family. This reveals an inner strength and ability to endure hardship, and I think it is there partially due to the past occupations the islands have gone though.

An obvious answer to the question, "Why date Filipinas?" is the natural sexual attractiveness they have. The country has gone through periods of occupation and rule by other foreign countries and have mixed blood. They are also an earthy sort of people and many have ties to nature and the sea. As a result they have an inner sexual magnetism and beauty that you cannot really appreciate from photos, you need to see it in real life. Their inner sexuality and outer physical characteristics combine to make P.I. ladies a knockout!

One of the most endearing qualities they have is that many will wait until marriage before they engage in sexual intercourse. The island culture is such that it can be frowned on to sleep around with a lot of men or to even appear to forward in mannerism in public  Marriage here is for life as there is no divorce law because they are primarily a Catholic nation. 

This can vary from area to area though. Sometimes in the city or other places the girls are not so old fashioned seeming, at least as regards to foreign men. I plan to write more about this in a later post or article though and don\'t want to get too in depth here.

Whenever possible ladies here will educate themselves. It is a belief they have to always strive for more I think. If you take time and listen you will find out that many of these people have more than one degree, and not just bachelors either but masters and even doctorates. I believe they do this to not only better themselves but to help insure that children and relations are better provided for and for a way for them to get into positions of employment that may not be open to them otherwise. In real life connections matter and every person here knows it!

The country had a strong American presence in the past and as a result many Filipinos can speak English to a greater or lesser degree. In fact they are taught it in school. Most signs and advertisements and streets are in English which makes it easy to get around compared to most non English speaking countries.

A real nice bonus to dating a filipina is the cost! Most pinays are ok if you don\'t take them to five star resturaunts every weekend (but would be thrilled if you do once in awhile).  As I stated above, many girls here are not from rich families so are not used to that lifestyle anyway. Do however be respectful and prepare for your date and take her somewhere at least decent. 

The generally good conversion rates of many western currencies compared to here or other Asian countries means your dollar goes farther. Sometimes a lot farther, and beyond the conversion, it is just a fact that the dollar stands for more and so do you. Meaning that you may be regarded as a stable, even rich sort of fellow.

Depending on where you are in the Philippines, you can easily have a date for one thousand pesos (about twenty-five U.S. dollars). This can be more or less depending on what you do together.

 As an example, if you were in the provinces and not in metro Manila, then a good meal at a good place can be about two hundred pesos each. A movie is about one hundred and fifty pesos each for the tickets. Pedi cabs in many areas are maybe nine pesos a ride as long as you are not going too far. So right there you took her to a movie and had good dining for under the one thousand pesos that I mentioned and she is more than likely thrilled with you too!

There are many answers to the questions "Why date Filipinas?" and to "What qualities do they have that would make them desirable?" and I trust that I have given you are few good ones.

I must admit that in the time that I have been here, I have had more fun than I did back home and have learned some of the their culture too. Just remember to study up on the parts of Asia you intend to go to before hand so you are prepared. I will be writing more about these things here and I urge you to look at forums for international dating and Expatriots. There are some good ones that provide a lot of information so check those out.

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