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Is there a chance my ex and I will reconcile our relationship?

My ex girlfriend and I have been best フレンズ since we were small children (we're both ladies and both now 24) and decided to make our bond official after mutual feelings were brought to light 3 または 4 years ago. Our relationship, like any, had its ups and downs and ultimately, back in April, we got into it over something stupid and broke up. In the beginning, she vehemently declared she was "over" me in that way and would likely NEVER want to get back together with me, but still wanted to go on being my best friend as always; her entire demeanor changed from the sweet girl I knew and loved to someone cold and cruel. I, on the other hand, have suffered immensely and have foolishly kept the faith we might get back together later on down the road.

Currently, 2 months later, she and I are on pretty friendly terms having talked all the way through the break up, and she still spends the night with me but as platonic as possible until the last couple of times she's stayed. These times, she's made an extra effort to touch me/be close to me, not sexually per se, but in a manner that to me might suggest a need coming from her to have some sort of physical connection there. She's much もっと見る consoling to me in 最近 weeks as well, going もっと見る out of her way to talk to me about my daily problems and help me deal with them and share hers just like we used to with one another instead of being the reserved person she'd became with me. And I feel like things MIGHT be looking up and our chances of getting back together at some point at least might be strengthening but I'd really appreciate a 秒 opinion.

What do あなた think?
 ladyshela posted ·5 か月前
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Zeppie said:
Tbh I'm not much of a believer in getting back with your ex ever working out. It can happen, but it's a rocky foundation to try rebuild. I view ex partners as learning experiences to grow and 移動する on from, rather than taking steps back to fall into the same problems.

It's good that you're on friendly terms now. I think she may be putting in the extra effort to be close to あなた because she probably appreciates あなた as a person and wants あなた in her life, although this might not be in a sexual sense as あなた might hope for. After your argument this could just be signs of relief that the negative air is gone and that she feels at peace because she has her best friend back.

But I mean hey, just keep being there for your friend, don't ever force the relationship back if she's not interested and try to understand her if she wants to just remain friends. If あなた truly are close friends, あなた should both be there for each other and openly talk about what's going on in each others mind about this all.

Just let things progress naturally and try pick up on any body language hints to see where あなた stand with her.
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