Charm-the Real Feminine Mystique:
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If あなた have it, あなた don't need to have anything else; and if あなた don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else あなた have.'
Once あなた have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after あなた have discovered how much happier your life is because あなた are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming あなた need not to be any particular age, weight または height または have any specific coloring または proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
作者 and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of あなた might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I 愛 this book, the values it teaches and the アドバイス it gives. Most of all, I 愛 how this book has never made me feel もっと見る proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are もっと見る needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the ディズニー Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances または birth for what あなた are. Your personality can become the way あなた wish it to be... It is up to あなた to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when あなた were born. It continues all your life. によって giving もっと見る thought to your attitudes, あなた can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner あなた permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being もっと見る calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since あなた can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure によって trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair または even a new food! Trying new things opens up もっと見る possibilities in your life. あなた will be able to learn もっと見る about yourself (including what あなた like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give あなた もっと見る to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person あなた enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things あなた say witty. もっと見る important, the one who enjoys being with あなた is also someone whose wit あなた appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If あなた take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later 全体, 全体的です health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: ジャスミン & Pocahontas
あなた can hardly be charming and beautiful if あなた can't see and feel beauty. If あなた haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, または the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
あなた should be interesting to others. That means あなた must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large または small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what あなた really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, 映画 または sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the ハート, 心 of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. 表示する tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way あなた would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: シンデレラ & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously 表示中 happiness, joy, surprise- または even annoyance when あなた are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, あなた also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline または control that あなた will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your サークル, 円 of フレンズ to just a few if あなた really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: ムーラン & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give もっと見る to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If あなた don't think あなた are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If あなた don't like yourself, if あなた don't feel your actions, habits または appearance can stand competition, または comparison, あなた lack self-confidence. If あなた don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If あなた do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life あなた wont be able to do.
"A girl need not have perfect features nor an outstanding figure to be popular. But she should have charm. As Sir James Barrie had Maggie say in his play, What Every Woman Knows, 'If あなた have it, あなた don't need to have anything else; and if あなた don't have it, it doesn't much matter what else あなた have.'
Once あなた have acquired charm, you'll probably never lose it. Especially after あなた have discovered how much happier your life is because あなた are considered to be that charming girl down the street.
To be charming あなた need not to be any particular age, weight または height または have any specific coloring または proportions. Charm is like an essence. It is easier to recognize it in a person than to define it, although Webster's Third New International Dictionary says that charm is 'a combination of entirely attractive and delightful traits.'
作者 and scholar Havelock Ellis wrote, 'Charm is a woman's strength just as strength is a man's charm.'"
So some of あなた might have guessed as much, but I am definitely a person who is living "out of my time" in the sense that I feel like I would fit in better with a different era. That being said, I have one of those old "Charm Handbooks" from the early 1970s before American woman started throwing away all of their charm and graces out of the window. I 愛 this book, the values it teaches and the アドバイス it gives. Most of all, I 愛 how this book has never made me feel もっと見る proud of femininity and what true femininity produces. I wish that charm schools were still a big deal in America, especially since they are もっと見る needed now than they were in their time. Since this valuable wealth of knowledge has been cast away as "old-timey" instead of recognized as "tried and true", I thought I would share some of it here, for those who still care about women having grace, respecting each other and having better relations with other people. In relation to the ディズニー Princesses, I have attached each DP to the attribute of charm that I think she best represents:
"Don't blame your family, circumstances または birth for what あなた are. Your personality can become the way あなた wish it to be... It is up to あなた to make the changes necessary for improvement. Changing is a part of growing, a process that began when あなた were born. It continues all your life. によって giving もっと見る thought to your attitudes, あなた can alter and redirect the course of your life.
Remember you'll only be as beautiful as the inner あなた permits. Cosmetics, clothing, and a trim figure can do wonders, but they can seldom hide a distorted inner you."
Poise: Aurora
The poised girl maintains calm when she has a difficult situation to handle. She goes about it naturally and easily and avoids nervous movements of the body. This will only serve to work to her advantage. She does not want to let her enemies know they have affected her and she doesn't want to lose her head in impulsive and irrational thoughts. Her grace will also help her lead others into being もっと見る calm in a difficult situation.
Spirit of Adventure: Ariel
Since あなた can't always pack your bags and sail to faraway islands, begin to develop a spirit of adventure によって trying new ideas, new thoughts, a new method of study, a new way of wearing your hair または even a new food! Trying new things opens up もっと見る possibilities in your life. あなた will be able to learn もっと見る about yourself (including what あなた like and don't like) as well as others. [This will also give あなた もっと見る to talk about with a bigger range of diverse people.]
Sense of Humor: Anna
You'll find the person あなた enjoy being with most is the one who finds the things あなた say witty. もっと見る important, the one who enjoys being with あなた is also someone whose wit あなた appreciate. Look for the things in life worth laughing about. If あなた take yourself too seriously and cannot laugh about simple things, this will have an effect on your later 全体, 全体的です health. You'll get extra points for telling a funny story about yourself. Remember, however, to laugh with people, not at them.
Appreciation of Beauty: ジャスミン & Pocahontas
あなた can hardly be charming and beautiful if あなた can't see and feel beauty. If あなた haven't thought about it, try, to appreciate the beautiful things in life. There is beauty all around- in the shape of a leaf, the changing sky, the smell of spring, または the laughter of a friend.
Be An Interesting/Interested Conversationalist: Elsa
あなた should be interesting to others. That means あなた must be able to contribute to a conversation- at a party, in groups, large または small, even on a one-to-one basis. Find out what あなた really like. Learn to talk about interests such as music, books, 映画 または sports etc.
Spiritual Graciousness: Snow White
Spiritual graciousness is at the ハート, 心 of charm. Know and practice the courtesies of daily living. Avoid jokes at the expense of others; avoid gossip and a condemnatory attitude. Forgive those who hurt you. 表示する tolerance for those who upset you. Generosity of spirit involves giving credit and praise from when they are deserved. Respect the opinions and rights of other people. Treat them the way あなた would like to be treated regardless of their station in life. The Golden Rule is as important today as ever.
Balanced Emotions: シンデレラ & Belle
Perhaps the hardest requirement of all is self-discipline- control of yourself and your emotions. Spontaneously 表示中 happiness, joy, surprise- または even annoyance when あなた are angered- is to be true to yourself. But to live happily with others, あなた also must exercise self-control. It is this balance between spontaneity of feelings and discipline または control that あなた will want to achieve.
Making Friends: Rapunzel
The charming girl is interested in virtually all [good] people and all aspects of life. She knows that almost everyone [decent] can contribute something to her life. So meet and make new friends; don't your サークル, 円 of フレンズ to just a few if あなた really want to grow.
Good Family Relationships & Values: ムーラン & Tiana
Because we are so close to our families, we tend to lose sight of the fact that they deserve the same courtesies we give others [especially strangers]. Too often we expect our parents, siblings, etc. to give もっと見る to us than we give to them. There should be mutual respect and understanding within family groups. If あなた don't think あなた are getting it, try giving it. It will probably be returned.
Self-Confidence: Merida
If あなた don't like yourself, if あなた don't feel your actions, habits または appearance can stand competition, または comparison, あなた lack self-confidence. If あなた don't believe in yourself, no one else will. If あなた do believe in yourself, there is almost nothing in life あなた wont be able to do.